First, you need to know that i know what you’re feeling. I know how your heart aches. I know that feeling of wondering that tomorrow it may not be better, maybe not even two weeks or two months from now. It’s a terrible feeling and it sucks to have. There is no feeling like losing that person who made you the happiest you’ve ever been. You want them back. You can’t imagine waking up the next day without being able to see them again. Tomorrow suddenly doesn’t matter.
All over this site are posted strategies and techniques you can use to get them back. I need to point out that that’s JUST what they are. They are the means you can use to reconnect. What they are not is the HOW and the WHY. You need to know the answer to both of those before it can really work for you. What I’m about to explain will get you ready to use guides like The Magic of Making Up so that you have no doubt going into your quest to get back your ex that you will not fail.
I fully understand your need to let your heart feel better. That you need that peace. But if you want them back, it can’t be about you. Your desire to make their life better should be the drive you need to do all the work necessary to get them back. This is incredibly important to know. The obvious reason being you will spend much of your life with them, together. Unless you have a real desire to make their life better, and KNOW you are the one that can do that for them, it’s going to be a constantly uphill battle against yourself, to make it work time and time again.
It’s as much about “What do you want?” and it is “What do you want for them?”
The techniques and strategies are meant to give you an outline and some ideas, but they’ll never be able to explain or truly address what is between the lines in any relationship. Those lines that can only be implied, but never said, because every relationship is different.
I don’t know how you two act alone together. I don’t know the real circumstances of the breakup though I’m working to handle as many situations as possible on this site. I don’t know your history with your ex. These are things I can work to fill in as necessary, but it still won’t GET you there as much as you deciding for yourself that the main reason you want them back is not for your good, but theirs. Yes, you need them, and yes, the world sucks without them, but unless you can truly make their lives better, you may find them continually looking for someone who can.
If you that someone is you, and just haven’t realized it yet, tirelessly push yourself to that end so that they know it.
And then SHOW them that it’s true.
That’s it. That’s the real secret.
The rest of the stuff posted here will give you moments of opportunity to make that clear. Chances to communicate again to make your feelings known.
Guides like The Magic of Making Up will dramatically increase your chances for opportunity, and if you need a detailed guide it surely helps, but once you get them and get there. If you’re not ready to go as far as I’ve said, you’re not ready for them back. Earn the chance again to show it’s not just about you.
