There’s a lot of information out here on how you should best try to get your ex back. Two popular guides are in are T.W. Jackson’s The Magic of Making Up and Dr. George Karanastasis’ Get Her Back For Good, to name just two of them. The advice they give is sound, WILL help, and does work, but working through them to find some things in common can take some work. So, if you are need of somewhere to start and have no idea what you should be doing, this will be very helpful to you.
The basics include separation time. This can be a difficult one to do and keep doing for as long as necessary. One reason you need separation is so that your ex will miss you. Having them miss you is great because they’ll see how much they want to be with you, which will make getting them back much easier. It’s also necessary to let both of you cool your heads, especially if a big fight caused the breakup. After some time has passed you’ll be able to talk to them much more reasonably than just after the breakup. Cooler heads DO prevail.
Go over the relationship in your head and see if you can the moment things started going downhill. Knowing the cause of this is important so that you won’t make the same mistake again, or keep making the same mistake that will keep you perpetually in an on-again of-again relationship. This moment, big or small, is also important because you can try and think about what you could have done differently. If you don’t know what this moment is, and you approach your ex again to get back together, you will be ill prepared for the future, since it can very well break you up once more if left unchecked.
Change from within is also something in common with these popular advice guides, and with good reason. There will be a certain amount of inner reflection before you’ll find you’re totally ready to get back your ex. This is something that can really just be touched upon and attempted to be explained, but ultimately, is up to you on where you think you need to be before getting them back. You want to make this time you get them back to be the last time, and not a recurring theme in your relationship, so having all your bases covered, including yourself, is vital to making this the last time you’ll ever have to do this dance to back your ex.
