Get Your Ex Back

How To Train Your Man

Click here to go to The Magic of Making Up.

After losing someone you’re so close to you’ll go to Hell and back to get them back.  You want to start right away and not rest until they’re back in your arms. The passion is there. The want is there. What many people don’t see during this time is that this is not the right course of action–yet. It’s perfectly understandable you want to be at your ex’s door, or go to where they work, and gush all your feelings out to them right after a breakup. The feelings bubbling inside you are just begging for a release. They’re begging to be acknowledged and that your ex will see the error and take you back.

Stop right there. Don’t rush out of the door yet. Both of you are going through similar feelings. It’s very likely you and your ex want to see this resolved, one way or the other, as soon as possible. What you may have forgotten is that the breakup may not have been pretty. You may have said things you didn’t mean, and you may still be steaming a bit from them. You need to cool off. They need time to cool off too. It’s time for a short break.

How long should you wait? A month minimum is recommended for this cool down period. After that time, enough time should have passed you will both be able to think clearly again and communicate well with your ex. The breakup may feel like ith appened yesterday, even after all that time, but to your advantage your mind will be in a much better place and you’ll be able to better articulate what you mean to them without accidentally triggering another fight. Many of your own ideas at getting them back will also be more successful if you’ve chosen to wait as well. Both of you will have had a chance to miss each other, and that goes a long way when you both talk again and get a chance to work things out.