Get Your Ex Back

He broke your heart. It felt so sudden and you don’t know what to do. One thing you know you’d really like to have happen is for this terrible breakup pain to stop! If you do that then maybe you could think clearly enough to do something else, anything else, besides think of him. I’m going to tell you a surprisingly effective method to ease that breakup pain. Once you can think clearly again it’s up to you whether you’ll let him go or decide to get him back.

The advice is simple. You shuld have a Girl’s Night Out. You’re probably thinking that’s a terrible idea and it won’t help me. I could even make it worse! This is why this is a good idea. You need to distract your mind for awhile. You probably are not interested in “fun” of any sort right now and can’t imagine even being able to have a little even if you did go out with your friends. This is OK. what matters is that you actually go and let your friends help heal you the best way they know how.

It’s possible you’ll find and connect with someone else during your time out. It’s up to you how far that goes, but male attention isn’t a bad thing, especially if the only intent is to hav a little fun and relaxation. Having a night out lets you experience life again and lets you see that just because he broke up with you the world isn’t over. You may even rediscover things about yourself you forgot you knew and others around you will certainly find attractive, raising your confidence.

A final note is to go light on the alcohol. It’s possible you may decide to drunk dial your ex. This is bad no matter how you slice the situation. If you want to get your ex boyfriend back later on then this will only hurt you. You don’t want to have to be apologizing for making a fool out of yourself during a night where you just meant to find a little relief from him to begin with. The whole idea is being in the company of friends, and perhaps in the company of the opposite sex, to boost your confidence again and show you that this isn’t the end. You may need more than one night out like this, and take as many as you need, but the results will soon show it helps you get over your ex boyfriend.

There are a lot of things you can be doing right now to win back your ex. You can’t just think short term either, because while you are doing one thing you can plan for things you know you’ll be doing in the future. Make sure to stay focused on getting them back and that all your efforts are not only with that in mind, but drive toward that same goal. This is not a complete list by any means, but it will give some ideas, maybe a place to start, or remind you to stop doing something that may be hindering your progress.

1. Take time off. The dreaded “space”, but it serves a purpose. Don’t be afraid to give your ex some time, as this is needed before you’ll be able to really communicate to them again without causing fights.
2. You need time to relax too. Don’t let the breakup own your life. Go out and experience life again. It’ll do you wonders.
3. Time to workout. Your body has it’s own way of dealing. Like yu can work through a code, working out can help you stay in shape, looking good, and handle the breakup pain.
4. New hobbies. This will give you some more topics to talk about with your ex as well as help you handle breakup pain. Diverting your mind in this way will make you mentally ready to talk to them again when the time comes.
5. Locate the cause. Think hard about why the breakup happened. This is important to know if you want to make sure it doesn’t happen the next time around.
6. Change inside yourself. What could YOU have done differently? Is there anything about you that needs to be addressed before you can get back together and assure that when you have them this time, they won’t leave?
7. Apologies are powerful. So powerful, in fact, they can make or break the future of the relationship. Make sure you’re sincere with yours.
8. Plan. Don’t make something up the day before or the day that you decide you’re going to talk to your ex and get them back. That’s a disaster waiting to happen. A good plan is of paramount importance.

Read The Magic of Making Up for more.

I don’t know what’s worse. The breakup itself or the pain the follows it and won’t go away. If you’re familiar with those feelings then you know exactly what I’m talking about. Worse still is that after, thoughts keep coming back about your ex. Every thought stings. That pain just won’t go away, but if you don’t find a way to make it go away you think you’ll go crazy. There is something I can suggest to help you out.

Typically, after learning about a breakup, your friends will want to help you. The best way they know how is usually to take you out for a night of fun or to relax to get your mind off of your ex. You probably don’t feel like “fun” or going out at all. I understand, I’ve been there. You’ve got to understand though, that unless you can divert your thoughts somewhere else, and live life again, you’ll be stuck perpetually depressed by your ex. I know you don’t want that option either.

It’s ok to pretend you’re having fun as long as you go out and let your friends deal their part to heal you. You may find someone else you have a liking for and things may develop from there. If you have no interest in that at all right now, and want to get your ex back, remember there is nothing wrong with company of the other sex as long as it’s in fun and harmless. You can have more than one of these nights if you find that’s what you need as well. Before you take that call, or call your friends up, a few quick words of caution.

Drunk dialing is a cause of many potentially fixable breakups ending before they start. So go light on the alcohol. You don’t want to have to be apologizing to your ex for something you don’t remember doing or was not in a controlled state of mind when you did it. So if you plan to drink, don’t overdo it. It can dig you into a deeper hole than you already might be in.