Get Your Ex Back

I don’t know what’s worse. The breakup itself or the pain the follows it and won’t go away. If you’re familiar with those feelings then you know exactly what I’m talking about. Worse still is that after, thoughts keep coming back about your ex. Every thought stings. That pain just won’t go away, but if you don’t find a way to make it go away you think you’ll go crazy. There is something I can suggest to help you out.

Typically, after learning about a breakup, your friends will want to help you. The best way they know how is usually to take you out for a night of fun or to relax to get your mind off of your ex. You probably don’t feel like “fun” or going out at all. I understand, I’ve been there. You’ve got to understand though, that unless you can divert your thoughts somewhere else, and live life again, you’ll be stuck perpetually depressed by your ex. I know you don’t want that option either.

It’s ok to pretend you’re having fun as long as you go out and let your friends deal their part to heal you. You may find someone else you have a liking for and things may develop from there. If you have no interest in that at all right now, and want to get your ex back, remember there is nothing wrong with company of the other sex as long as it’s in fun and harmless. You can have more than one of these nights if you find that’s what you need as well. Before you take that call, or call your friends up, a few quick words of caution.

Drunk dialing is a cause of many potentially fixable breakups ending before they start. So go light on the alcohol. You don’t want to have to be apologizing to your ex for something you don’t remember doing or was not in a controlled state of mind when you did it. So if you plan to drink, don’t overdo it. It can dig you into a deeper hole than you already might be in.

An effective apology is an important part of the mending after the breakup process. Too many people just do what they think their ex wants to hear at this stage and end up repeating the steps that lead to another, and worse, breakup down the line. The apology can literally make or break a relationship so it’s importance and power should not be taken for granted.

By the time you hit this stage of the process you should already have heartfelt feeings you want to communicate to your ex. It’s obviously important you also have a good idea of what you intend to say to them. It’s not necessary to have the entire thing scripted out or written down, but knowing what you intend to tell them before you start will greatly reduce the chance of losing your concentration and having a fight errupt. This general idea will keep you on track and make it easier to work through distractions.

The apology needs to be sincere. If it’s not your partner will know. Remember how long you were together before breaking up. They know you pretty well and will be able to read you and your sincerity. Sincerity will make making up with your ex very easy to do and very heartfelt. The apology has a greater purpose than just saying you’re sorry.

The main point you’re aiming to get is that your ex knows that you are on their side. They know that in rough times you’ll be with them to get through it. The apology shows that you still have their feelings in mind. A breakup is definitely one of the rougher times so you’ll be actively showing your support with the apology. It does not matter who was right in the argument. You don’t want to have the lingering feeling that things are unresolved further down the road. A well meaning apology will clear the air and allow both of you to progress further in the relationship.